Do You Have An Abusive Boyfriend?
Statistics show that 1 out of 3 teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship. Most all cases involve one partner trying to sustain power and control over the other via some kind of abuse.
The majority of victims of Dating violence are young women who are also at higher risk for serious injury. Women age range 16 to 24 experience the best per capita rates of intimate violence — nearly 1 away from 50 women. (Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence, May 2001)
Teen dating violence often is hidden because teenagers are inexperienced, want independence from their parents. and they are pressured by peers to begin dating from a young age.
Some young men might believe they have the right to “ control” you or they think they will lose “ respect” if they happen to be attentive and supportive toward their particular girlfriends.
Are you responsible?
You might think you are one who is causing the problem. You may think that his jealousy and abusiveness means he really loves you so much he can’ t control themself.
You might think because you have friends that are also being abused that this is normal or you may think you are able to change him.
You would be wrong on any of those counts and statistics prove that over and above a shadow of a doubt. If your boyfriend is abusive now, he will not get better, he will get worse until one day he hurts you really bad or even kills you. It’ h that serious.
Consider these questions; If you answer yes to one or more of the following queries about the boy you are dating then you are in danger of having a serious problem. If several of these are yes, get a new boyfriend.
Is he using alcohol or drugs?
Does he have got extreme mood swings? Happy one minute and angry the next?
Is he extremely jealous? Really does he get into fights with other kids who pay you attention?
Does he use pressure during an argument or during intimacy?
Does he blame others or make excuses about his problems?
Is he verbally abusive to you? (yelling all the time, putting you down, phoning you stupid, threatening you? )
Does he treat his mother with disrespect or is he mean to her? Perform former girlfriends say he abused them?
Does he or she try to control you or tell you what to do, who you can see, where you can proceed all the time?
Does he or she try to keep you away from your family or try to make you dependent on him, suggesting that he knows what is best for you as well as your family is always wrong?
I repeat if even two of those things is true, you need to split it off and get as far from him as possible, because these are signs of someone who abuses or will abuse women.